Taaruf 1 · Before Taaruf, Am I Ready?
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Questions for checking my readiness before taaruf
Taaruf is the process of getting to know a prospective spouse with marriage in mind. Family or a trusted intermediary is often present.
Questions for looking back, before taaruf, at how your heart is preparing for marriage and life together.
They slowly ask about what you'll actually face living together — faith, family, money, housework, conversation.
Designed not to pick right answers, but to notice where your readiness stands now and what still needs to be said.
Three steps
- Choose a deck
- Draw a card
- Take turns answering
When · with whom
One personMarriageMuslimAll
Meet each other halfway
- Hear it allHear the whole answer before you reflect
- Take your timeIf they pause, give them a moment
- Let it beYou don't need to correct them
- Choose freelyFeel free to skip any card
- Keep balanceBalance talking and listening
- Keep it hereLet what you share here stay here
A list for anyone preparing a conversation.
- Right NowThis very moment you're in
- WindWhere your heart is leading you
- AloneTime you enjoy on your own
- Your StrengthWhat you have to give
- A Hard WeekWhile you get through it
- As You AreWithout adding anything more
- WaitingWhat hasn't reached you yet
- GrowthWhat you're growing little by little
- The FamiliarNever asked because it was familiar
- TirednessYou when you are worn out
- Daily LifeYou seen up close
- Unthanked WorkDone without complaint
- A StrangerBefore someone passing by
- ApologyThe words you need to offer
- ArgumentsAfter the voices die down
- PromisesWhat you've pledged to each other
- What You Will Not Give UpWhat you will not trade
- PracticeWhat you are learning now
- ForgivenessSomething you want to release
- AngerWhere it goes
- The First Ten MinutesWhat comes out first
- ComfortWords you want close by
- A WoundThe mark an old thing left
- DinnerAfter the sun goes down
- ProofWhat shows before words
- What You CarryWhat you are carrying now
- EnoughWhen you stop wanting more
- ProvidingMore than words can hold
- What They May ExpectKnown only by assumption
- HouseholdThe things that keep a day running
- Sharing the LoadA share that shifted without saying
- Favorite SpotWhere you stand
- Where You TurnThe person you go to first
- What You Grew Up SeeingAmong the things you grew up seeing
- HopeWhat you are hoping for
- PreparingWhile you are getting ready
- Staying With ItUnbroken for a long time
- MaghribWhoever is beside you then
- WorryWhat weighs on your mind
FAQ
- Is it free? Do you need an account?
- Yes, everything is free. You don't need to sign up or log in. This site may show ads, though.
- Your conversations aren't saved on the server. The nickname you enter also stays only in this browser.
- How many cards are there? What kinds of cards can you find?
- There are 771 cards across 23 decks. They range from questions for looking back on your own to questions to share with family, partners, friends and colleagues.
- Each deck has its own feel. If you'd like to start light, open Today's Question first.
- Who is it best for—family, a partner, or friends?
- Each deck shows which relationship it suits. With Family is great for family, Deeper Together for a partner, and Switching Seats for friends.
- Either-Or Questions is an easy choice when you're meeting for the first time. If you're not sure what to pick, filter by relationship or situation at the top.
- How is this different from buying physical talk cards?
- You don't need to buy anything or install an app. Just open a link and start right away.
- There are no cards to lose or carry around. You won't get the feel of paper, though—that's where physical cards shine.
- How many people do you need? Can you use it alone?
- It's easiest with two people, but a bigger group works well too. Enter the number of people, and you'll see whose turn it is.
- You can flip through the cards on your own too. Even if you don't answer out loud, the questions stay with you.
- Is it available in languages other than Korean?
- Only Korean is available right now. Other languages are on the way.
- You can see the languages coming next in the language list in the footer.
- Can you use it for interviews or group orientations?
- Yes. For a first conversation with someone new, a group orientation, or an icebreaker, 'Today's Question' and 'Either-Or Questions' work especially well. There are no right answers, so nobody needs to prepare in advance.
- It can also help you prepare for an interview. Use 'Today's Question' to reflect on who you are these days, then explain your choices in 'Either-Or Questions' to make introducing yourself feel much easier.
- Cards made especially for interview questions are in the works. You'll see an announcement when they're ready.
Taaruf 1 · Before Taaruf, Am I Ready? · marriage-taaruf
Questions for checking my readiness before taaruf
Taaruf is the process of getting to know a prospective spouse with marriage in mind. Family or a trusted intermediary is often present.
Questions for looking back, before taaruf, at how your heart is preparing for marriage and life together.
They slowly ask about what you'll actually face living together — faith, family, money, housework, conversation.
Designed not to pick right answers, but to notice where your readiness stands now and what still needs to be said.