Either-Or Questions
DecksEither-Or Questions · 39 cards
For this deck
The story is why you chose it, not which one you chose.
Two paths, no right answer. Which side am I on?
Thirty-nine cards that lay out two paths with no right answer and get everyone talking about which side they stand on.
Since both sides are right, like security and adventure, or honesty and consideration, there's no winning or losing.
They're written to make it a time for hearing why someone chose, more than which side they chose.
Three steps
- Choose a deck
- Draw a card
- Take turns answering
When · with whom
2–6 playersNew PeopleGatheringsWorkMeeting someoneFriendsCoworkers
Meet each other halfway
- Hear it allHear the whole answer before you reflect
- Take your timeIf they pause, give them a moment
- Let it beYou don't need to correct them
- Choose freelyFeel free to skip any card
- Keep balanceBalance talking and listening
- Keep it hereLet what you share here stay here
A list for anyone preparing a conversation.
- Comfort · AdventureWhere you feel torn
- Honesty · ConsiderationThe warmth in your words
- Alone · TogetherHow you feel fulfilled
- Wide · DeepWhere your heart reaches and digs deep
- Now · LaterWhat you keep putting off
- Words · TimeThe time your words need to ripen
- City · NatureWhere you want to stay
- Remembering · ForgettingWhat you keep and what you let go
- Questions · AnswersWhat you find harder
- Fast · SlowThe pace that suits you
- Planning · SpontaneityHow you choose your path
- Changing · AcceptingWhere you choose to make a change
- Your Judgment · AdviceWhat you lean on when deciding
- Perfect · DoneHow you bring things to a close
- Giving · ReceivingWhat comes more easily to you
- New · FamiliarWhat you naturally reach for
- Courage · CautionYour step forward and your step back
- Process · ResultWhat you keep your eyes on longer
- Love · FreedomWhat you find hard to hold together
- Holding Back · Speaking UpThe words you swallow
- Family · YouWhere both you and your family matter
- Work · LifeWhere you divide the weight
- Care · IndependenceWhen you hold on and let go
- Money · MeaningWhen you weigh what matters to you
- Making Up · DistanceThe steps you take toward someone
- Memories · TruthBetween what you recall and what you know now
- Waiting · DecidingHow you choose the right moment
- Parent · YouWhere you stand between two names
- Apology · ExplanationWhat you say first
- Promises · FlexibilityWhat you hold to and what you let bend
- Present · PastThe time your eyes linger on
- Body · MindWhich voice you choose to follow
- Marriage · DatingHow you feel before a promise
- Forgiveness · ResponsibilityWhat you let go and what you hold to account
- Lightness · DepthHow deeply your heart connects
- Taking Sides · FairnessWhere your heart goes first
- Leaving · StayingWhere your feet lead you
- Words · ActionsHow your feelings reach someone
- The Way You Say It · Your HeartWhat you hear and what lies within
FAQ
- Is it free? Do you need an account?
- Yes, everything is free. You don't need to sign up or log in. This site may show ads, though.
- Your conversations aren't saved on the server. The nickname you enter also stays only in this browser.
- How many cards are there? What kinds of cards can you find?
- There are 771 cards across 23 decks. They range from questions for looking back on your own to questions to share with family, partners, friends and colleagues.
- Each deck has its own feel. If you'd like to start light, open Today's Question first.
- Who is it best for—family, a partner, or friends?
- Each deck shows which relationship it suits. With Family is great for family, Deeper Together for a partner, and Switching Seats for friends.
- Either-Or Questions is an easy choice when you're meeting for the first time. If you're not sure what to pick, filter by relationship or situation at the top.
- How is this different from buying physical talk cards?
- You don't need to buy anything or install an app. Just open a link and start right away.
- There are no cards to lose or carry around. You won't get the feel of paper, though—that's where physical cards shine.
- How many people do you need? Can you use it alone?
- It's easiest with two people, but a bigger group works well too. Enter the number of people, and you'll see whose turn it is.
- You can flip through the cards on your own too. Even if you don't answer out loud, the questions stay with you.
- Is it available in languages other than Korean?
- Only Korean is available right now. Other languages are on the way.
- You can see the languages coming next in the language list in the footer.
- Can you use it for interviews or group orientations?
- Yes. For a first conversation with someone new, a group orientation, or an icebreaker, 'Today's Question' and 'Either-Or Questions' work especially well. There are no right answers, so nobody needs to prepare in advance.
- It can also help you prepare for an interview. Use 'Today's Question' to reflect on who you are these days, then explain your choices in 'Either-Or Questions' to make introducing yourself feel much easier.
- Cards made especially for interview questions are in the works. You'll see an announcement when they're ready.
Either-Or Questions · two-way-questions
Two paths, no right answer. Which side am I on?
Thirty-nine cards that lay out two paths with no right answer and get everyone talking about which side they stand on.
Since both sides are right, like security and adventure, or honesty and consideration, there's no winning or losing.
They're written to make it a time for hearing why someone chose, more than which side they chose.