What If We Were Married?
DecksWhat If We Were Married? · 39 cards
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Questions for two people about to become a married couple to share ahead of time
Thirty-nine cards for two people who are about to marry, or who are picturing married life together.
They slowly bring up the things you'll face in real life, like money, housework, family, children, days off, and each other's dreams.
Rather than getting the right answer, they're arranged to help you notice each other's standards and worries ahead of time.
Three steps
- Choose a deck
- Draw a card
- Take turns answering
When · with whom
2 playersCouplesLoved OnesLoveMarriage
Meet each other halfway
- Hear it allHear the whole answer before you reflect
- Take your timeIf they pause, give them a moment
- Let it beYou don't need to correct them
- Choose freelyFeel free to skip any card
- Keep balanceBalance talking and listening
- Keep it hereLet what you share here stay here
A list for anyone preparing a conversation.
- WorryWhat weighs on your mind
- TimeIf you don't have enough time
- MoneyWhat you find hard to bring up
- HouseworkComing round every day
- Your Own StandardWhat you hold to when choosing
- ChildrenFor someone you're watching grow
- Being Cared ForA way of staying near
- Your ResolveWhen you began to lean
- RolesThe part each of you plays
- FriendsAmong each other's people
- FearWhat you find hard to say
- What Lies AheadThe two of you far ahead
- HomeThe place you come home to
- Putting It OffPushed to later
- The EldersWhat rises before your elders
- A Life on Your OwnDays lived on your own
- Work and LifeWork and the hours outside it
- Love Before ThisWhat the passed time left
- Body and HeartSomething to say beforehand
- Something SteadyWhat seems unshakable
- MarriageStaking a whole life
- MealsA place where you sit together
- A HabitSo old it goes unnoticed
- RulesA promise just between you
- A Day OffA day with your hands down
- What You Grew Up SeeingAmong the things you grew up seeing
- Growing OldAfter the years have gone
- What Holds You UpWhat you lean on when it is hard
- Caring for FamilyWhen someone becomes yours to care for
- Spending and SavingHow you save and spend
- DreamThe picture you hold in your heart
- A Life for TwoA future drawn for two
- DifferencesWhere you are not alike
- Something to LearnWhat makes you want to take after them
- LaughterA moment you laughed together
- UnguardedNothing covered
- When Talk FlowsHow talk runs between you
- Deciding TogetherSettled together
- A Small LifeA small breathing thing beside you
FAQ
- Is it free? Do you need an account?
- Yes, everything is free. You don't need to sign up or log in. This site may show ads, though.
- Your conversations aren't saved on the server. The nickname you enter also stays only in this browser.
- How many cards are there? What kinds of cards can you find?
- There are 771 cards across 23 decks. They range from questions for looking back on your own to questions to share with family, partners, friends and colleagues.
- Each deck has its own feel. If you'd like to start light, open Today's Question first.
- Who is it best for—family, a partner, or friends?
- Each deck shows which relationship it suits. With Family is great for family, Deeper Together for a partner, and Switching Seats for friends.
- Either-Or Questions is an easy choice when you're meeting for the first time. If you're not sure what to pick, filter by relationship or situation at the top.
- How is this different from buying physical talk cards?
- You don't need to buy anything or install an app. Just open a link and start right away.
- There are no cards to lose or carry around. You won't get the feel of paper, though—that's where physical cards shine.
- How many people do you need? Can you use it alone?
- It's easiest with two people, but a bigger group works well too. Enter the number of people, and you'll see whose turn it is.
- You can flip through the cards on your own too. Even if you don't answer out loud, the questions stay with you.
- Is it available in languages other than Korean?
- Only Korean is available right now. Other languages are on the way.
- You can see the languages coming next in the language list in the footer.
- Can you use it for interviews or group orientations?
- Yes. For a first conversation with someone new, a group orientation, or an icebreaker, 'Today's Question' and 'Either-Or Questions' work especially well. There are no right answers, so nobody needs to prepare in advance.
- It can also help you prepare for an interview. Use 'Today's Question' to reflect on who you are these days, then explain your choices in 'Either-Or Questions' to make introducing yourself feel much easier.
- Cards made especially for interview questions are in the works. You'll see an announcement when they're ready.
What If We Were Married? · love-marriage
Questions for two people about to become a married couple to share ahead of time
Thirty-nine cards for two people who are about to marry, or who are picturing married life together.
They slowly bring up the things you'll face in real life, like money, housework, family, children, days off, and each other's dreams.
Rather than getting the right answer, they're arranged to help you notice each other's standards and worries ahead of time.